it still hasn’t sunk in that i am now a Californian (albeit couch surfing but at least i’m not panhandling on the street corner). but now that i’ve had a few days to decompress and unwind from my trip, i’ve also had some time to reflect on the trip. by a random coincidence, my sister and brother-in-law were in the bay area and we got dinner together last night and they asked me what did i learn from my trip? it was a legit question. did i really learn anything about myself from this trip?
as an experience, this trip was amazing. as an east coaster who has basically never lived outside of the northeast, my opinion has always been that there is the east coast, there is the west coast, and there basically is nothing in between worthwhile (except Chicago). but driving across this country, touching/seeing/interacting with places i’ve never been, i’ve come to have a new and better understanding of America. i’ve seen some beautiful sights (like the Grand Canyon), tasted delicious food (like my meal at Commander’s in NOLA), and seen/met interesting people. this country is huge and beautiful, filled with an extremely diverse population. i believe as Americans, we believe if we want to go on a cultural trip, we need to travel outside the country and go to places like Europe, where each country has drastically different food/culture/history. however, i think don’t need to look any further than our own country to find these same experiences. each of the regions of this country i have visited on this trip was almost like traveling to another country. at times i was shocked to see and experience what i did, almost like i wasn’t even in America. one of the eye-opening experiences was going to the Grand Canyon. seeing the Grand Canyon, it was impossible not to be amazed. i rank seeing the Grand Canyon on the same level as seeing Crist the Redeemer in Brazil or the Taj Mahal in India. and i never thought i would be able to have an experience in America that would compare to those two locations.
as an opportunity for self-reflection and self-discovery, i don’t believe i learned a great deal of new information about myself. but this trip created an opportunity for me to reset and refocus. the last two years of business school has been a great ride. i’ve met amazing people, learned a great deal that will help me in my future career, and had some ridiculous experiences. b school is the definition of “work hard, play hard”. especially the last few weeks before this trip, i had a lot of fun partying and saying goodbye to friends. but that chapter in my life is over.
i’m no longer a grad student nor am i 23 year old punk kid that doesn’t know better. i’m a nearly 30 years old. it’s time for me to grow up and become an adult, the type of responsible adult we all avoid becoming and make fun of as a kid. i am thankfully that i took this trip alone. it gave me a lot of time to sit in silence, work thru shit, and get my mind right. i know i need to hit the ground running here in San Fran. i need to find a job, find a place to live, and reconnect with old friends while making new friends. i need to build a life here. most importantly i need to think long term about my life, from both a personal and professional standpoint. so this trip was a great chance for me to close the last chapter of my life while setting up the next chapter in my life. though i don’t feel refreshed physically (driving 5000+ miles doesn’t do wonders for the back), i definitely feel refreshed mentally. i’m ready.
ultimately, this trip was exactly what i needed. when i first thought of this idea, i was extremely apprehensive about driving across the country alone. i was comfortable with my life in DC and i was constantly surrounded by good friends. i worried not only about making a solo cross-country trip but also the risk i was taking by moving out to the west coast with no job leads and a very small established network. but life is about taking risks and there was i realized no reason to be scared. what was the worst case scenario? i move back home to NJ? worse things could happen. and more importantly, as someone who nearly always makes the calculated move, the one with the least risk, this move was an an opportunity to get out of my comfort zone and push myself. though the drive was extremely successful and i had an amazing time, i honestly don’t know what the future holds. it’s scary but exciting.
I hope this blog provided you (the reader) some insight on the life of crazy former b school student. these blogs of my travels were originally intended to be my defacto diary, something i could refer back to years from now to reminisce and i’m shocked and thankful that people find my ramblings interesting. I also hope this blog has convinced you to pack up your car, fill up your tank, and take a long roadtrip. this country is AMAZING and i believe everyone should take time to explore our own country before making crazy trips to other international cities. most importantly, I hope it brought a smile to your face.
signing off until my next adventure…